Makna di sebalik WIFLE

By Action Coach Dave Beam

Often when I am coaching a business, I meet individually with the key employees to get their perspective on how the business is doing and what we can all work on to make it better. By far, the number one issue that comes up is communication.

“We just need to get on the same page” is a familiar phrase, or “The right hand doesn’t know what the left hand is doing”. The fact is that the only way for people to know what is going on is to communicate. A more subtle but important fact is that it is NOT all about business.

Your employees and managers are people, and they have feelings that they would like to express. If a team of people can learn to be more open and transparent with each other, they just work better together.

The WIFLE is a simple tool that you can use with your team to facilitate a more open, happy, relaxed work atmosphere. Here’s how it works. WIFLE stands for 'What I Feel Like Expressing' and enables each team member to express what is currently going on in their lives, both in the business and personally.

Too often it is assumed that people leave their emotions at the door when they come to work but the reality is that this unexpressed or ‘bottled up’ emotion can all too often impact on team performance.

Many of my clients hold WIFLE sessions regularly, and I suggest that a team should conduct a WIFLE at least once a week.

The rules for a WIFLE are as follows: Sit around the room. Starting with the person next to you, ask them ‘what do you feel like expressing’. This person then has the right to say whatever he or she feels like without interruption, this is most important.

 If anyone does not feel safe to express whatever he or she feels, you are all wasting your time. This is NOT a time for blame and whining, but just a simple expression of how the person feels.

Once he or she has had a say, this person then asks the next person what they feel like expressing. When everyone has had their say (and only when everyone has finished) you may then ask if anyone has any ‘burnings’.

This is where anyone that feels they have been wrongly treated replies to the other person’s feelings or impression, either by apologizing or explaining what actually happened.

If these sessions are conducted correctly, you will find your team bonds together much more effectively and relates to each other as humans instead of just someone you work with.

It is important to have everyone realize that any complaints are not directed as personal attacks, rather they focus on behavior. This is essential to enable everyone to feel safe in voicing any criticism of you or the system so changes can be made and progress is always happening.

You may also try other variations of this such as the high-low. This is where each team member expresses their high and their low for the week during the WIFLE.

Though this sounds simplistic, if done with the purpose of respecting each other, it is a powerful tool to improve team communication and relationships. Enjoy trying it out!

P/S : Cubalah lakukan bersama teman sekerja dapat menjauhi sifat prasangka buruk, menanamkan sifat profesionalisme sekali gus merapatkan hubungan antara satu sama lain. Ia percuma dan tidak perlu bayaran. Mudah bukan. :)

http://actioncoachohio.blogspot.com/2011/06/wifle-powerful-simple-team.html

Amaran: Video tontonan 18 tahun ++

Gambar hiasan

Selain tugasan harian menulis artikel untuk disiarkan di portal berita Malaysiakini.com dan Komunitikini.com. 

Aku juga gemar membuat tugasan 'multi-tasking' ambil  rakaman video walaupun  stail "amatur - video gegar dan goyang  tanpa 'tripod'. haha 

Secara tak langsung aku dapat pengalaman baru. Tak lupa tunjuk ajar 'angel dan shot' daripada sifu 'Shuf'. 

P/S:  Aku harap korang jangan salah faham, pasal apa yang aku nak tunjukkan bukan  rakaman video ' panas'. Haha. Tipah tertipu bang, Tipah tertipu. :p  

Tembok Sekolah Condong

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80 hari ditangkap tanpa penjelasan

Idea: Cerita tak berapa pendek

Romper Stomper

Pengaruh budaya Skinhead dan Punks di Malaysia

Mula menular di Johor Bahru pada 1995 daripada negara jiran Singapura.

Kaset kumpulan The Exploited, The Ramones, The Clash dan banyak lagi dijual sekitar RM3 - RM5 'dubbing' manakala Fanzine seperti "Sufferage" dijual RM2 macam tu lah * maaf tak berapa ingat harga*

Abang masa tu tingkatan empat  kerja 'partime' di Sentosa jb kebetulan ada sebuah kedai Habib menjual barangan kaset, T-shirt 'rare' underground hingga ke barang skater dan kenal dengan sorang mamat selalu keluar masuk singapura.

Pertama kali dengar lagu punk kaset kat radio, kemudiannya kaset skins, lirik dan maksud mendalam sanggup cari kamus untuk tafsir.

Lebih kepada kehidupan realiti golongan ditindas.

Masa tu zaman video tape, ada member bawa judul filem Romper Stomper - mula dari situ terus terjebak dengan budaya skinheads bersama dua orang rakan baik zaman sekolah.

Malam tu jugak kita orang dengan pantas pinjam mesin rambut member terus potong botak tapak satu. Kahkahkah.

Sampai satu tahap idea dan kreativiti sampai, selamber aku guna 'liquid paper' lukis lambang bendera England kat beg sekolah.

Masa tu budak sekolah dressing pakai seluar bootcut, kasut Converse ikat tali cerut. Stail aku lain sket stok seluar senteng, kasut Coleman belakang ada bendera. baju sekolah tahun lepas stok takde kocek depan. Haha.

Masa pergi sukan sekolah kat stadium larkin dressing skins, lepak dalam stadium ada sorang budak brader nama dia Aji Punk jugak la tegur kenapa pakai tali kasut Docmart putih kerana ada kod tertentu. Tali  kasut putih pengaruh Nazi 'White Power'. lebih baik pakai tali merah atau hitam.

Bagitau yang baru join tak pernah ikut mana-mana kumpulan, dia ajak turun shopping kompleks Plaza Pelangi sesi berkenalan dengan budak punk.

Masa nak balik Aji dengan geng aku tengah berjalan pulang waktu itu kena gegar dengan budak flat yang anti Skinheads.

Mula-mula turun sorang budak  kat situ cari pasal, lepas budak tu blah tiba-tiba ramai keluar daripada celah flat aku perasaan ikut dari belakang lebih 7 orang siap dengan kayu bagai.

Kita org berjalan dengan laju, Aji suruh ikut laluan ke pasar awam Larkin pasal kat situ ada peniaga  ikan dan daging apa-apa hal boleh capai pisau ke parang untuk mempertahankan diri.

Kita orang lalu celah penjual ikan dan daging, tengok belakang budak flat masih ikut. tembus ke terminal bas larkin terus naik bas menuju ke Masai/ Pasir Gudang.

Ada dua orang budak flat naik atas bas lepas itu kita orang bangun daripada tempat duduk dorang takut turun. bas jenis tingkap bukak salah seorang geng bengang ludah budak sambil tunjuk isyarat 'fuck' kat dorang. Puas hati. Berdekah-dekah gelak dalam bas.

P/S: Antara salah satu  pengalaman 'warna warni' dalam kehidupan. Apa-apa pun sesiapa yang rasa nak beri idea atau pandangan sedapkan cerita pendek yang tak siap ni amat dialu-alukan. :D

5EA1 - SMPJ - 1998 

10 fakta menarik tentang Kurt Cobain dan Nirvana

10 random facts about Cobain and Nirvana

1. Kurt’s imaginary friend got drafted to Vietnam.
Kurt Cobain was born on February 20, 1967. At age 2, he was living in Hoquiam, Washington, and had an imaginary friend, Boddah. Parents Wendy and Don Cobain were so concerned about their son’s propensity for fantasy that, when an uncle was drafted to Vietnam, they told young Kurt that Boddah had been called up too.

2. Years before they met, Kurt and Courtney did the same drugs.
In 1974, second grader Kurt was prescribed Ritalin to curb hyperactive behavior. Courtney Love was also given Ritalin and later reflected that this contributed to the couple’s eventual heroin problems: “When you’re a kid and you get this drug that makes you feel that feeling, where else are you going to turn when you’re an adult?”

3. At church, Kurt found God — and Krist Novoselic.
On Wednesday nights, Kurt went to Christian Youth Group, where he befriended 19-year-old Krist Novoselic, whom he’d first met in high school. They started covering Led Zeppelin songs together. Kurt was baptized and, according to youth counselor Dave Reed, “accepted Jesus Christ into his life,” but his religious fervor soon waned.

4. Kurt saved people’s lives. When he wasn’t mopping toilets.
In May 1985, Cobain started work as a janitor and — in the case of staff shortage — a substitute lifeguard at the local YMCA. One night that summer, he graffiti’d the YMCA building. Kurt didn’t seem to realize that as janitor his first assignment the next day would be to clean it up.

5. He nearly joined the navy.
In 1984, Don Cobain asked a navy recruitment officer to speak to his son. Kurt listened but didn’t follow up until a year later, when his friend Trevor Briggs enlisted. Kurt took the aptitude test and passed it, but pulled out at the last minute.

6. Being a Cobain pet was high risk.
In 1981, Kurt killed a cat by trapping it inside his parents’ chimney. Five years later he accidentally stepped on the head of his pet rat, Kitty, and was forced to beat it to death with a plank. In 1991, Kurt dyed his kitten, Quisp, red, white and blue with Kool Aid — then watched it have sex with his pet rabbit Stew.

7. A chainsaw helped form Nirvana…
In 1986, Cobain formed the Sellouts, a Creedence Clearwater Revival tribute band. He played drums, Novoselic played guitar and pal Steve “Instant” Newman played bass. Newman quit when he lost his fingers in a gruesome logging accident. After recruiting drummer Aaron Burckhard and swapping instruments, the band evolved through names like Skid Row, Ted Ed Fred, Throat Oyster and finally Nirvana. Said Cobain, “I wanted to put out a record or play some shows instead of having it all fall apart like everything else for the past six years.

8. …and so did Springsteen.
Burckhard left the band in 1987 after he got busted for driving drunk in Kurt’s car. He was pulled over by a cop named Springsteen and proceeded to abuse the cop with cries of “Hey Bruce! What’s up Bruce!” The police impounded the car, and Kurt fired Burckhard from the drum stool.

9. At first, only furniture thought Nirvana were cool.
One of Nirvana’s first shows was booked at Seattle’s Central Tavern early in 1988. However, the attendance clocked in at an underwhelming zero. Cobain disappointed the expectant chairs and tables. “We loaded up our stuff and left,” he recalled.

10. Cobain painted on the side. And jizzed on his work.
In 1989, Kurt’s neighbor Amy Moon visited his apartment to commission a painting. Cobain told her that once a piece was finished he would add his “secret ingredient.” “My seed is on this painting! Look, you can see how it glistens,” he announced to her.

-Peace- Love- Empathy

P/S: Antara salah satu lagu favourite. Entah kenapa aku nak post pasal kumpulan Nirvana dalam entri kali ni. Aku pun tak tau. Engkau lagi lah. Dah jom layan. :D